Thursday, January 27, 2011

No Thank You


We are dealing with some challenging behaviors at home to say the least. Our soon to be three-year-old has decided he’d like to find out what happens when we count to 3. I suppose he really enjoys this scenario because we have had to relive it over and over and over.

He finds out that he is sent to his room for a time out. Instead of going up there to SUFFER, he probably plays to his heart’s content, but who am I to actually think that parents have an upper hand when disciplining?

On a positive note, there is much to be learned from a two-year-old on how to handle requests that you do not wish to comply with.

For example, if you were to tell my son, “Put your toys away,” he would likely say, “No thank you.”

I am thinking I NEED to incorporate this savvy strategy in my own life.

For example, “There is a late meeting scheduled today to prepare for our next meeting.”

I could then say, “No thank you.”

Simple as that!

I am really excited about this. Why didn’t I think of this before? It should be all too easy to incorporate some two-year-old behavior into my work life. Everyone else is doing it, why can’t I?

Now, if only I could get my boss to count to three and then send me to my room. Alone. THEN we’d really be getting somewhere.

27 comments:

Cristina said...

No thank you!

they are little geniuses!!

yeah the threes are way worse than the twos, way worse.. I don't mean to be a downer but get ready for some serious battles... what I eventually (and why it took me so long to figure it out, I don't know)... is that for my kid, putting his toys in time out worked waaaaay better than putting him in time out.

Kara said...

"No thank you", I love it! Your son is much more polite than mine at that age who would reply with, "But I don't want to" as if that were reason enough. Try using that one at work!

Tracy said...

Time out was always spent standing with the nose in the corner for as many minutes as you were old. So a three year old would spend three minutes that way. My daughter learned very quickly that wasn't fun. I now have a very well behaved 18 year old.

Wanderlust said...

Yes please! I'd like a time out. Can I get one minute for every year of my age? Great strategy. And also, please take my candy away if I'm bad. So grateful.

Krista said...

LOL! It's brilliant! Please do; and tell us how it works for you. :oP Somehow it works for my pets too; but I haven't figured out the knack yet. Will keep you posted on my own progress. hehe

Stephanie in Suburbia said...

Oh man, some days I would LOVE to put myself on timeout.

Is there wine in time out for mommies?

Babes Mami said...

I would love to sent to my room to be alone!

Oddyoddyo13 said...

Once again, you are a GENIUS. I find myself writing this down for future goals/tips.

Bella @ If This is Motherhood said...

It must be a conspiracy. My 3 year old is driving me insane. Bossy and defiant!

Love the idea of incorporating it into our lives though!

Deeds said...

My 3 year-old son, soon to be 4 in February,has always been overly polite:
-Thank you for the candy Mommy (after he got it out of the pantry himself).
-Sorry I scared you Mommy (after a quick death scream from the back seat of the car - for no apparent reason).

But the best is his latest concoction on how to not get into trouble:
"Mommy, um, can you not look at me for 10 minutes? and can you stay in the OTHER room too please? Thank You Mommy!"

Gotta give 'em all an A for creativity!

Katie Gates said...

This post made me laugh out loud! As my mother tells it, the first word I uttered was "NO," and I fairly much limited my vocabulary to that for the first few years of my capacity to talk. (God knows what I was THINKING!) To this day, I remain stubborn as hell, and I'm okay with that. (In adulthood, stubbornness can transfer to perseverence, and for the self-employed creative type, it's rather essential.)

TV's Take said...

HA! KLV uses "No Thank You" ALL the time and I never thought to put it to good use for me. Thanks for the idea and please let me know how it works out for you. Good luck!

Jacalyn @ rmebathproducts.com said...

Too funny! As least he's polite, ha!

Hugs,
Jacalyn

lyndylou said...

lol your son sounds like a lot of fun :)

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Kristi {at} Live and Love...Out Loud said...

Haha! Why didn't I think of that? Now to get the hubby to send me to my room... (without him trailing behind me with a big smile on his face, of course!)

Barb said...

Hi Kristi!
Thanks for the visit to my blog! It's upsetting to be out thought by a 3 year old. On the positive side, they are destined to be quite bright......
Hope you have a great weeekend.

Barb at Sugarbeat's Books

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Donna @ Nappydaze said...

I like your thinking! Time outs, being put to bed early and the like all sound like punishments I'd be happy to take :-)
BTW my 2.5yr old must be talking to yours - he is at the same stage and counts right along with me - not exactly scary punishment obviously...

Tropical Mum said...

I like that idea. We definitely could learn something from two year olds. I need to learn how to say no thank you more often.

citymouse said...

Good luck with that! Personally, I think I'd like to institute mid-day naps into my routine!

Clipped Wings said...

Very, very funny!

SherilinR said...

i would love to be sent to my room alone! preferrably with the door closed. and the lights off. and perhaps some soft music playing in the back ground. and my pillow...

Marilyn (A Lot of Loves) said...

Just wait until he's fully three. Then he'll really be able to teach you some stuff. :)

Marti (Musings of Marvelous Martha) said...

I think this child is wise beyond his 3 short years! I may just try it this week on my boss, who has a great sense of humor!

Leighann said...

What a fantastic idea!
Time to pay the hydro bill - "no thank you"
Dental appointment - "no thank you"
Pull over - "no thank you"
We have to figure out how to make this work!

PartlySunny said...

My kids are 6 and 8, so I think I could actually get away with using this on THEM when they ask me to do stuff. That'll teach 'em.:)

Ca88andra said...

I vividly remember the days when I still had enough energy to attempt discipline! I too sent my boys to their room/rooms after counting to, well sometimes 10. The eldest one was the most difficult to discipline. He would totally refuse to go to his room and constantly left it as soon as I put him in there. Once I even sat up against the door to his room so he couldnt open it! And yes, as I sat there I did think that it was very counterproductive. Now that he is 22 I'm waiting for him to have his own children and hoping that karma really does work!!!

Ma What's 4 dinner said...

Nice!!! My kids think if please is involved then they get anything! But I said please!!! Happy SITS day girl! Woo hoo!

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner
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