Sunday, January 2, 2011

Oops, I did it Again

“Woopsie!” is more my style, rather than plotting out steps for positive self-change.

I typically prescribe to the philosophy, “Lower your expectations, and you will be more satisfied.”

As a new year begins, I am not one to declare concrete goals and then try (and inevitably fail) to stick to them.

Through the year, if I want to do something or need to do something, I will try to do it…if I feel like it. I do not need a brand new year to do that.

But this year, I read something interesting. I read it in O magazine, and those of you who know me will now think, “Of course. O. Oprah is Kristy’s life-long spiritual guide. What on earth will she do without her daily show????” Yes, the wise Martha Beck (life coach and regular contributor to O magazine) wrote about resolutions.

She advises to choose ADJECTIVES for the way you would like to feel. Visualize yourself feeling that way. Think about what you will do to feel that way. Feel it. Own it. Love it. Visualize it. Do it.

(If you want to know more about the reasoning behind this and why it works, blah, blah, blah, check out the article yourself. However, if you are here to only know more about how this applies to ME, then I would love to have your attention for a little while.)

Here are my top 3 adjectives for the New Year (there are others, but I’m keeping secrets).

CONFIDENT


ENERGETIC


INDEPENDENT



I will TRY to do things that help me feel that way. I’m not one who likes to feel a lot of pressure though, so don’t expect too much of me. For crying out loud, I can only commit to make really good choices for about 80% of the time. Maybe 70%. 60%???

(Naughty is just too damn fun!)

Seriously though. I will buy small bottles of wine instead of big ones. I will try to bum cigarettes less. I will eat better and move more, and all that hoopla. Basically, I will try to treat myself better, as though I actually like myself and want this body to live for a long time.

I will follow my passion and continue to write. I will write my way out of my full-time job eventually, dammit. (This part relates to the INDEPENDENT adjective above there.)

Apparently, I will NOT commit to swearing less. Happy Fucking New Year!

31 comments:

Mrs. MidAtlantic said...

I love this adjective idea! I'm going to steal it. Hope you don't mind :)

MultipleMum said...

What a wonderful way to start the year - I have heard good things about the 'O' mag and this is another. The pictures and adjectives will keep you motivated! Surely? Good for you. I hope you don't give up the naughty though because it is one of your endearing features (well I think so anyway!). Happy New Year hun x

Cristina said...

I like this. I too hold low expectations for others and myself. it works :)

I will have to give this philosophy some thought.

Lucy said...

I did this last year. It was liberating. And so much came to fruition....

Shell said...

Love your adjectives!

BLissed-Out Grandma said...

Great adjectives to hold in mind. I do believe in visualization, and I wish I'd worked on "confident" long before I finally got around to it! All the best.

Clipped Wings said...

Love it!

Mama Hen said...

Great post Kristy! Happy New Year! I like this idea of choosing adjectives. You chose some really good ones and I am sure you will accompilsh what you set out to do. I want to work on my energy and make sure that I am doing healthy things to keep it going! I hope you are doing well. Happy New Year! Have a great night!

Mama Hen

Stephanie in Suburbia said...

I like the idea! I will have to check out the whole article.

Jen said...

This is beautiful.

TV's Take said...

Ha, the last line is too much! I like the adjectives, they seem solid. I'm not big into new years resolutions but I beat myself up a lot this year and now it's time to apply those lessons and look forward. Happy New Year :-)

Wanderlust said...

LOVE the kitty picture! Happy fucking New Year to you, too. Grab it by the horns!

Amanda said...

Love it!!! I did set two goals for this year, and I am hoping I don't fail. I like to think of resolutions as promises I don't intend to keep. Your three adjectives sound great though!!

Amanda said...

P.S. What is your twitter name?

Ratz said...

I am with you Kristy. Oprah has been my inspiration for a long time... I like this adjective idea and I would have chosen CONFIDENCE and CHEERFUL... Here's to a crappy New Year

Glen said...

Good luck with that and Happy flipping new year back to you

Maxabella said...

Adjectives - what a great idea. I also feel a sense of promise with the ticking over of a new year. x

chele said...

Love your adjectives and this statement right here: "I will write my way out of my full-time job"

I'm right there with you!

Katie said...

Is it just me or is "Mr. Energetic" SUPER HAWT?!?
Just me?
:)
Dang.

Happy New Year!

Krysten @ After 'I Do' said...

Haha, glad I'm not the only one with a potty mouth ;-)

Katie Gates said...

Great post! I've never been one to go for the resolutions. Life is too ephemeral. But: I love the adjectives. I think I'll make a list of my own...

Style Maniac said...

Hee hee! Best last line I've seen on a New Year's Post yet. I have a similar version that applies to Scrooges around Christmas.

Also, great advice for a new twist on resolutions. After making my own inevitable (and long) list, I decided to try and simplify into just a few verbs. But I think your adjectives go a little deeper. I'll give it a try!

Date Girl said...

I love this idea. I keep trying to remind myself on a daily basis to be more positive. I think I'll make that one of my "own it" phrases. I am with you on writing myself out of my full time job. How awesome would that be? Good luck this year!

Amy said...

Haha! Lovie it!

Natalie said...

Yeah, I'm with you on the swearing less...it ain't gonna happen. Cool idea and easy to use to remind yourself what's important!

Marilyn (A Lot of Loves) said...

Sounds good! I haven't done this officially, but I think bold would be my word.

Lisha @ DeLovely Life said...

Bahaha! Happy Effin' New Year to you, too. :) I like the idea of choosing adjectives and I love all of yours. I agree, I don't like to feel pressure all of the time, either. It's way more fun to just go along sometimes.

(Florida) Girl said...

I love it when you drop the F Bomb!

Ma What's 4 dinner said...

right fucking back at ya girl! Love you! Happy New Year, I've lowered my expectations so far that I didn't even make a new years resolution. I mean really? I quit smoking years ago...what else is there to do?

happy new year!

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner
www.mawhats4dinner.com

WhisperingWriter said...

I know I couldn't give up cursing. I have a bit of a potty mouth.

hotpants™ said...

Happy Fucking New Year to you fourteen fucking days late!