It Takes Some Naughty Behavior to Maintain Balance in the Universe

I promised an update on my weeklong grocery challenge. Remember the post in which I insisted I was NOT a zealot? Yes, that one.

Did I save money at the grocery store? Yup! I absolutely did. It was almost $100 under what I normally spend. Obviously, this is a fabulous outcome. I bought mostly produce in the most whole form, and I did the prep work myself (e.g., like peeling and cutting carrots, rather than buying pre-cut). I bought only a small amount of meat and then other necessary staples.

Another great thing to mention was that I ended up buying more than I needed. So, it could have been even more savings. That extra food is not going to waste, however. I over-estimated how much raw produce was needed. Some of it is going to last into this week. The stuff that I could steam, I steamed today, and we will have cooked veggies ready to go for this week (e.g., green beans and cauliflower).

Instead of buying lunch items or frozen lunch entrees, I ate small portions of leftovers at lunch. Because I focused on buying things that could keep me feeling full (e.g., beans, whole grains, foods full of fiber and protein), I was able to say satisfied while eating healthy and cheap.

Some of the meals I made were:

Eggplant, potato, and tomato gratin
Italian stew
Creamy chicken and vegetables
Pot roast and vegetables

So, I would say it was a success. I am definitely feeling like this is not a typical funny and self-deprecating post for me.

So to make ya’ll feel better, I’ll let you know that on Friday night, I got quite drunk with friends and smoked cigarettes. On Saturday night, I enjoyed some gooey-yummy Chicago style pizza. And, now I am quite sick. Cold, cough, and sore ears. (I was already coming down with something, but the hard living really kicked it into gear, I’m sure.)

For dinner tonight, you bet I’ll be making an easy and quick frozen, packaged dinner that I can just throw on the stove.

There is balance in the universe. You just cannot be perfect all the time. Peace out.

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And You Thought You Knew Me

I must say MUCHOS GRACIAS to two special ladies at A Mountain Momma and Always Just a Mom! They have both been so kind to think of me for The Versatile Blogger Award.


Since the first and second times I accepted this award, I didn’t follow the actual rules, maybe this time I will.

I must list seven things about myself. (Since I have some new followers round here, I figured this would be a good idea.)

1. Sometimes I don’t follow the rules. Rules are meant to be broken, aren’t they?

2. I just now had the privilege of hearing one of my favorite lines in a movie. “Aw, don’t cry little lady. It makes my knees hurt!” (Monsters vs. Aliens)

3. I like to create new vocabulary around what I have termed, “The Psychology of Driving.” For example, the “Seabiscuit Effect” is whenever you try to pass someone on the interstate and they start to speed up just as you get next to them and they realize you are trying to pass them. (When this turns into a stale-mate of passing, I call this, "The Race of the Idiots.")

4. I have a large personal space bubble, and I’m very particular about where I sit in relation to other people. I don’t like to have people sitting behind me.

5. My second toe is longer than my big toe.

6. I use self-deprecation to get people to like me.

7. I am fiercely loyal.

So, there you have it. Some really interesting and important information about me. Now, I will award this to some ladies who have had me laughing lately:

The Suniverse

Mass Hole Mommy

Because Motherhood Sucks


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Baring my PPD Soul

Like many mothers, I look back on the infant stage with foggy recollection. This is not all due to sleep deprivation though. I feel like my experience as a new mother was also clouded with postpartum depression and anxiety.

I have judged myself before for how I felt during that time, and there has been shame. After being able to read so many other blogs that have been beautifully honest about this issue, I feel comfortable in owning my experience as my own.

Still, there are times when I see new moms, and they look so relaxed, so comfortable, so peaceful.

I marvel at this. I am jealous of it.

I look back on pictures of me holding my precious boy, and I look happy in the picture, but the woman looks like a stranger to me.

I remember feeling scared. Fear and anxiety completely consumed me. Many of my memories of that time felt FRANTIC. I was completely frantic for about a year. I was always sick to my stomach. I felt broken. Like something was seriously wrong with me. I was wound so tight, I would startle if I thought a bug sneezed. I could not relax. I didn’t enjoy eating. I felt very fragile. I was lonely, and confused for feeling lonely. I could not sleep. I cried. A lot. I was scared to go anywhere. When I did go somewhere, I cried in public too. I had a very, very hard time making even the simplest decisions, fearing that every small decision was monumental, and potentially scarring, for the development of my child.

All of this was not the experience I had expected, and this derailed me. I am a person who is usually PREPARED for things.

I tried really hard to act like this wasn’t my reality.

It took a long time to get back on track, but I did get back on track. I eventually began to trust my instincts, relax, and take comfort in simple pleasures. (Well, and I FINALLY admitted to needing some help with medication. When I made that choice, the relief was immense, and I thought, “Why the hell didn’t I try the medicine earlier?”) I started embracing and enjoying motherhood, myself, and LIFE again.

I get to live in the present moment, rather than worrying about the next moment, the next possibility, the next thing that could go wrong, and 50 chess moves in the future in my son’s life.

Why have I gone for the overshare? This is my truth. And I know others are out there who share it. And judge themselves for it. Well, I’ll stand next to ya. I’ll have a cup and stay a while.

Tell me. If you’re a mom, do you relate to some of this? Even if you didn’t have PPD, were there feelings you had as a new mom that surprised you?

I am not a Zealot

I am not a zealot. I feel sorry for zealots. They must be tired all the time from putting so much energy into following the rules of their various causes.

I try to be a good person.

I try to spend smartly, most of the time.

I try to be “green” here and there.

But, I am not a zealot. I try my best to do some things right, and I am good with that. I have no need to GO ALL THE WAY with green living, nutrition, etc.

I figure sometimes ease and convenience is really worth it (e.g., disposable diapers).

I figure some indulgence is necessary for happiness and ease of living (e.g., Cheetos and frozen lunch meals).

I mean, really, even sanity is good in moderation.

So, I am doing something this week that is uncharacteristic of me.

I have taken a personal grocery-store-challenge for a few different reasons:

1. I am about out of money before the next paycheck, and I am tired of putting more on a credit card that never seems to get paid off. In the past, I would not want to stress out about this and so I would use the credit card to get what we need, figuring I could pay it down the next month. But paying it down has not been happening. I am tired of this.

This means I need to drastically cut-down my grocery spending. I also need to really get creative and use what I already have in my fridge, freezer, and pantry, rather than letting it go to waste.

2. I have had interest in the buy-whole-foods movement, rather than pre-packaged, processed, frozen stuff. This sounds and feels so much healthier and can be cheaper.

This means I need to plan well and take a little more time with preparation of food.

3. I am still trying to lose weight (only 5.5 pounds to go!), and need a diet that is naturally low in calories (vegetables), but high in satisfaction (beans, lean meat).

This means I will need to buy a lot of fresh, healthy ingredients that I will prepare myself and be responsible for the portion sizes.

So, here I embark on a challenge to: use what we have, decrease spending at the grocery store, and buy whole, healthy foods and ingredients.

But, I am not a zealot. I’ll try it for the week and let you know how it goes!

Life is Good

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Life is good when surrounded by the people you love and who love you.

-I received a voice mail today that put a huge smile on my face. My dear, good friend, Jen, called to thank me for a birthday present I sent her (Happy Birthday, Jen!). She was so happy on the message, and that made me SO happy! I sent her some of her favorite wine. She thinks alcohol cannot be shipped into Pennsylvania, so I will just let her think that I performed feats of awesome-ness to accomplish this (really, it was no problem). Not only did I send her one bottle, I threw in two for good measure. Love you, girl.

-I received a text last night from my dear, good friend, Juli, saying that she can visit me this summer! Holy crap, I could think of nothing more exciting. (Hopefully, Jen can join her too?!) Us girls, we could take over the world if given enough power to be dangerous!

-My son and I are excited for a play date at another dear, good friend’s house this weekend! Yes, I attend the play date as well because it really is more about me getting to hang with The Awesome Amy.

-My family just booked a trip for the summer in Mexico! We get to relive the excitement of Rude Behavior is Inevitable! What an amazing time – beach, aqua-bar, AND family. I am beside myself. So much to look forward to.

In the midst of some stressful times and remembrances of past, sad events, my heart is full of love for the people in my life.

Sappy of me, I know, but ‘tis true.

Now, I will go and take an opportunity to watch The “Real” Housewives of Miami bitches duke it out on their reunion show. Yessss. Life is Good.

Masters of Manipulation

For a few days, we had to fight a good fight while Parker adjusted to The Big Boy Bed.

We have learned that there will be no new idea or change that occurs without some back-lash – kind of like the kick-back after shooting a gun.

Parker would try to hold me down on his bed, not wanting me to leave. He would hang on to me. He would lie on the floor and cry. He would scream, “Mommy, help me!” over and over.

All of this served to rake my emotions over the coals of hell, making me wonder, “Did we do this the right way?” “Is he ready for this?” “Are we cruel people for making him sleep in his room?” “Should I trade in the husband so the maniac can sleep with me?”

As if all of this wasn’t hard enough, Parker pulled out the big guns one night. I was holding him as he whimpered, getting ready to say good night. Parker reached his hand down to my stomach and said, “Mommy, I want back in your tummy!”

Ohhh. I melted. I felt so bad for him! He must NEED his mommy!

I know that other moms out there may think, “Hell no! My tummy’s the last place I want you!” But, is it strange of me to think that I sometimes want the same thing?

I thought to myself, Yes, Parker, I could have you in my tummy again warm and safe and tucked away, and we could both go lay down and go to bed.

Those kids, man. Masters at manipulation. They know JUST what to say to push the right button.

But, I’m no sucker. I didn’t let it work. I did what any other smart mom would do. I made my husband put him to bed for a few nights.

Now, I am again back at the bedtime duty without any emotional warfare going on. We are all sleeping peacefully in our own space with no more pre-bed battle cries or regression to fetus stage.

Until the next thing comes along, this parenting hurdle can be considered jumped.

Manipulation in Progress

What Has 2011 Done for you Lately?

A third of the year has already passed!

What the hell has happened to my “resolutions?!” Well, I will tell you.

In January, I wrote that I wanted to do things to help me feel the following:

CONFIDENT

ENERGETIC

INDEPENDENT

I said I would buy small bottles of wine instead of big ones. I would try to bum cigarettes less. I would eat better and move more, and all that hoopla. I would follow my passion and continue to write. I would write my way out of my full-time job eventually, dammit. (This part related to the INDEPENDENT adjective above there.)

And, I would NOT commit to swearing less.

My update:

I fit in some pre-pregnancy jeans – how is that for confident and energetic (and damn sexy)?! In order to get there, I ate a whole lot better, and moved a little bit more. I bought smaller bottles of wine and drank wine on less days! Unfortunately, I kind of take almost any opportunity to bum a cigarette, but no one is perfect, for crying out loud.

To illustrate:

One Friday morning before work, my husband shouted, “Look at Mommy in her hot jeans!” (He knows what’s good for him.)

Parker, replied, “My pants are just warm.”

My confidence is getting so much better that I often think of the scene from Pulp Fiction when the robber is going to fish Samuel L. Jackson’s wallet out of the trash bag.

The robber says, “Which wallet is yours?”

Samuel L. Jackson coolly replies, “It’s the one that says Bad Mother Fucker.”

(Obviously, I have continued to enjoy my right to swear at ripe opportunities - when little ears are not around.)

I have not written my way out of a job yet. I still want to work on that one. There’s only so much work place drama you can endure before your heart shrivels into a prune, sucked dry and unavailable for any patience and understanding.

So, for the rest of this year, I am ready to continue on my way to Bad Ass Mother Fucker-ness! I will write more, wear hot jeans, and keep moving my bad ass through 2011 MY way!

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