Sunday, February 14, 2010
“Albert Camus wrote that the only serious question is whether to kill yourself or not. Tom Robbins wrote that the only serious question is whether time has a beginning and an end. Camus clearly got up on the wrong side of the bed, and Robbins must have forgotten to set the alarm. There is only one serious question. And that is: who knows how to make love stay? Answer me that and I will tell you whether or not to kill yourself. Answer me that and I will ease your mind about the beginning and end of time. Answer me that and I will reveal to you the purpose of the moon.”
-Tom Robbins, from Still Life with Woodpecker, (one of my favorite authors)
Well, Tom, here I am to answer your question. How do you make love stay? You CHOOSE to make love stay. That may not be the highly romantic answer you were looking for, and I certainly do not mean that you dryly choose to make love stay by thinking, “Well, I guess this is it.” You choose to let love stay with gratitude and delight in your heart. Love sometimes is a decision you make, and when it is true and healthy love, you are a better person for it. Even after 12 years, you remember to tell your loved one, “You look hot today, Grr! Baby, Grrr!” Even when you’re mad as hell at the other, you trust they’ll be with you until the end. Even when you are tired before bed, you say, “I love you, hunny,” and give a peck on the cheek before you pass out exhausted from the long day of work, dinner, dishes, and laundry. It can be easy to let love pass by and turn stale. Small, conscious choices in the doldrums of everyday make love stay. What do you think makes love stay?