Oops, I did it Again

“Woopsie!” is more my style, rather than plotting out steps for positive self-change.

I typically prescribe to the philosophy, “Lower your expectations, and you will be more satisfied.”

As a new year begins, I am not one to declare concrete goals and then try (and inevitably fail) to stick to them.

Through the year, if I want to do something or need to do something, I will try to do it…if I feel like it. I do not need a brand new year to do that.

But this year, I read something interesting. I read it in O magazine, and those of you who know me will now think, “Of course. O. Oprah is Kristy’s life-long spiritual guide. What on earth will she do without her daily show????” Yes, the wise Martha Beck (life coach and regular contributor to O magazine) wrote about resolutions.

She advises to choose ADJECTIVES for the way you would like to feel. Visualize yourself feeling that way. Think about what you will do to feel that way. Feel it. Own it. Love it. Visualize it. Do it.

(If you want to know more about the reasoning behind this and why it works, blah, blah, blah, check out the article yourself. However, if you are here to only know more about how this applies to ME, then I would love to have your attention for a little while.)

Here are my top 3 adjectives for the New Year (there are others, but I’m keeping secrets).

CONFIDENT


ENERGETIC


INDEPENDENT

I will TRY to do things that help me feel that way. I’m not one who likes to feel a lot of pressure though, so don’t expect too much of me. For crying out loud, I can only commit to make really good choices for about 80% of the time. Maybe 70%. 60%???

(Naughty is just too damn fun!)

Seriously though. I will buy small bottles of wine instead of big ones. I will try to bum cigarettes less. I will eat better and move more, and all that hoopla. Basically, I will try to treat myself better, as though I actually like myself and want this body to live for a long time.

I will follow my passion and continue to write. I will write my way out of my full-time job eventually, dammit. (This part relates to the INDEPENDENT adjective above there.)

Apparently, I will NOT commit to swearing less. Happy Fucking New Year!