The SITS Girls are asking that we re-post a story that we wish had received more comments! You must have heard me mention before that I believe Supermom is a myth. Well, way back when I first started blogging, I dedicated a post specifically to that subject. The following post captures the spirit of why I began blogging.
Supermom is a Myth
It is time for us mothers to be honest. It is time for us to be more forgiving of ourselves and each other. We all agree that the very best and most precious thing in our lives is our children, but let’s face it, there are times when things don’t feel as rosy, and it helps to know that you are not alone. I think there are some moms out there that are not being honest so that they can perpetuate the myth of their Supermom-ness. Let’s end that right now and be bold and honest and have some fun with this! Here’s my list of things I may have been embarrassed to think or say, but SOMEBODY out there must have felt the same way at some point:
1. I’d like to go to work now.
2. My child is a maniac.
3. How terrible would it be if I had a glass of wine with these chicken nuggets and tator tots?
4. Let’s take the child to daycare, take a day off work, and lay around the house all day.
5. How much time do I have left before nap time/bed time?
6. Can’t I just go upstairs for awhile, and my husband can tell Parker I went to the store?
7. I need to have at least one more glass of wine to feel comfortable with my body in anticipation of “intimate relations.”
8. Are we getting close to when Parker can make his own breakfast in the morning and watch cartoons without us?
9. This child has taken YEARS off my life!
10. Oh, man! We don’t have any more batteries for that toy! (blatant lie)
Of course, these are moments, bad-mommy-moments (there I go judging myself again!). I do not feel this way the majority of the time. But I know you mommies are out there that feel or think these things sometimes too. It’s much more fun to laugh together about it then try to pretend you don’t have some of your own “bad-mommy-moments.” So go ahead and spill it! What do you think or feel sometimes that you keep inside because you’re afraid to be judged? This is a JUDGMENT-FREE ZONE!
If you enjoyed this blast-from-the-past, perhaps you would also enjoy reading my post that has the MOST comments:
Scenes from an Airport, Part 2 (or Read This to Feel Like a Better Mother)
22 comments:
HA! I have felt every single one of those for sure and I don't even feel bad about any of it. Whatever! I was my own person before being a mom and that person has needs, and lots of them that do not revolve around my kids... and you know what? I love them (the kids, not my needs) more than anything in the world!
YES! I so relate to all of these. I've thought "even worse" things. Since this is a judgment free zone, I'll confess them:
1) I wish I had waited longer to have kids.
2) I'm going to tell them I have a headache just to get a few minutes of peace by myself.
3) Dear Lord, WHEN WILL DADDY GET HOME!?!
4) I wish they would all just go away and leave me alone!
5) Why am I the only one who knows how to go to the grocery store, cook dinner, and do the dishes?
6) I wonder what my life would be like if I were single and without kids.
7) Doesn't anyone recognize or care about how much I sacrifice for them on a daily basis?
Of course, I never really mean these things. The truth is I have two wonderful children and a very supportive husband who is also helpful around the house. But there are times - sometimes an hour and once in awhile a whole day - where nothing goes right, I'm so tired, and it's one demand on me after another. Then I have these fleeting "bad Mommy" thoughts. And they really are fleeting. I think we've all been there.
This was a great post and I have to say that I can't tell you how many times a day I say, "I'd like to go to work now."
I considered putting mine on Ebay - I guess there are no Super Dads either?
I think we all have a similar sort of mental list like this, great post.
Saw you on SITS and ha to say 'hi from Anti-Supermom'!
I can relate to *so* many of these points, but I really love the one about going upstairs and just letting your husband tell your son you are at the store.
That, my friend, is brilliant!
Here's one: "You feel warm ... here take this benadryl and go to sleep. Now!"
Love this post.
Oh pu-leeze, not only do I think those things, but I say them out loud!
...wine and tater tots...I think they would compliment each other beautifully!
Good post to re-post, and happy 100th!
Oh.. you are sooo not alone!! I've been known to think one or two of your list.
Oh...alright then.... I've thought them all!
(Great idea re-posting!)
xx Jazzy
PS I'm now putting you on my Blogroll as I keep forgetting to!
I love this list because it's so true. There is a mom across the street who takes time off and keeps her kids in daycare at the same time. I am SOOOO jealous!
I absolutely love this post!! I'm glad that you decided to be real and say what so many mother are really thinking.
NO mother raises a kid without thinking those things at least once! With me it was Barney. I know, embarrassing right? (Oh yeah, judgment free zone. Never mind. So NOT embarrassing. :))
I bet my Mom thought that about once or twice....a minute. LoL
Congratulations! It is a great feeling to reach your 100th post! I did not too long ago and It felt great! I can think of a couple of toys that I did not rush to buy batteries for. I am not sure why toys have to be so loud. Gee that sounded like my mom talking. Ha! Have a great night!
Mama Hen
Oh, please. Show me a Mom who says she has NEVER thought or said these things, and I'll show you a big fat lying liar who lies.
Other things I think: 'When will you guys go to university?' and 'How log until the nanny gets here?'
I meant 'long'. Gah.
GREAT post! I can relate with so many points on your list.
My main ones are...
Where is my husband? He should have been off work and home by now?
Maybe we can wait 15 more minutes to feed you in case Daddy gets home to do it.
Want to lay down?
Totally! I'm so jealous he makes breakfast and watches cartoons on his own!! I live for that stage. We're still in the "seriously, you need to learn to crawl or walk, I can't carry you everywhere, you're 10 months" stage.
I can relate to all of those things. I think as moms we secertly like to hear when other moms feel this way. It makes "Us" feel better.
Thank you so much for visiting my site and leaving the sweet comment.
Yep, judgement free. We have all felt that way!
I'm stopping by from SITS to say hi & have a great day!
Mimi
I think the problem is often in the difference between doing and thinking. You know, I feel like we're all supermoms in our lives - we get stuff done and we do it well, even if it does sometimes take a glass of wine to fuel it all! But in our thoughts, yeah, we're all human.
Hey, Congratulations on #100!
My daughter's new, perfect skin makes me worry about my own aging face and that makes me feel like one of those trashy moms in denial who keep shopping at Forever 21 and wearing glittery eyeshadow well into their 50's.
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